In this first post, I will address this funny buzzfeed article:
https://www.buzzfeed.com/ilincavalentina/eight-reasons-infjs-and-entps-are-a-match-made-in-nf6k
1. "They share that instant special bond."
When I first met Edwin, my initial interpretation of him was that he seemed to be independent, insightful, polite, a quick processor, and someone who understood boundaries-- all things that I love and admire. It's probably a lot of weird random things that I decided in the first minute of meeting him, but like Malcolm Gladwell describes in his book, "Blink", our brains are super processors that can do incredible things in the blink of an eye.
2. ENTPs don’t take the INFJ’s need for space personally
Most of the time, Edwin and I will send texts throughout the day but there will be hour gaps if we are busy with work. This is fine and understood. We usually save some time at night to share our days with one another and reconnect. When I need to spend time with family or other friends, Edwin is very understanding and gives me space. He sends me an "I love you text" here and there, but he never blows up my phone when he knows I'm spending time with others.
3. The INFJ, the ENTP’s accidental personal assistant
This one was kinda expected, but in our relationship, it has been the opposite. Edwin plans most of our dates and is the one who leaves time in between for travel, delays, or spontaneity. He even has storage packing boxes in his car and bedroom, whereas I just throw my things everywhere. He shows up early for our dates and I usually am the one who makes us late. He does have a poor memory of events so I do remind him of things or events from the past.
4. ENTPs make for excellent social anchors
Regarding social things, Edwin is definitely the social butterfly. He loves going to parties, clubs, and events with his friends. I, on the other hand, enjoy spending time at home with my friends Spencer Reid and Mitch Albom. To be honest, I was a bit anxious to spend time with his friends and accompany him to parties...and I don't think that anxiety will ever go away. I am thankful, however, that he's pretty understanding with me and lets us spend the majority of our time alone just the two of us.
